Make your husband happy (Sir 25:23-25:23)

“A dejected mind,

A gloomy face,

And a wounded heart

Come from an evil wife.

Drooping hands,

Weak knees

Come from the wife

Who does not make

Her husband happy.”

Sirach once again shows his disdain for females. He insists that a major duty of a woman in a marriage is to make her husband happy. This evil wife will produce a man with a dejected mind, a gloomy face, and a wounded heart. He will have drooping hands and weak knees because his wife is not making him happy. Again, there does not seem to be any concern about making the wife happy at all.

Evil wives (Sir 25:16-25:20)

“I would rather live with a lion.

I would rather live with a dragon

Than live with an evil wife.

A wife’s wickedness

Changes her appearance.

Her wickedness darkens her face

Like that of a bear.

Her husband sits

Among the neighbors.

He cannot help sighing bitterly.

Any iniquity is small

Compared to a wife’s iniquity.

May a sinner’s lot befall her!

A sandy ascent

For the feet of the aged,

Such is a garrulous wife

To a quiet husband.”

Sirach continues his diatribe against women, particularly evil wives. He would rather live with a lion or a dragon, rather than an evil wife. In fact, he insists that her appearance changes because of her wickedness since her face will become dark like that of a bear. That would be some sight. Her poor husband will have to sit and eat with his neighbors and sigh bitterly. The worse kind of iniquity or evil is that committed by your wife. She should be reckoned as a sinner. This evil wife talks too much for her quiet husband. Thus he is like an old man trying to climb up a sandy dune. Sirach wants you to have pity for this poor husband with the evil wife, as if it never happened the other way around. Or perhaps he had some personal experience that colored his attitude.